Marketing a Best Seller with Soft Sell

Decades before I heard the term “soft sell,” at a time when I was still floundering at figuring out how to sell in a way that allowed me to sell with integrity, being true to my values, I came across Harvey Mackay’s first book, How to Swim with the Sharks without Being Eaten Alive. I immediately became a fan! I loved the image he came up with because I’d used a similar one. I choose to avoid sales organizations I call shark tanks. I do poorly in companies that believe they need to create a feeding frenzy within their sales pool. Yet I swim in the same ocean. So I chose the orca as my totem because I see orcas as having fun, being social creatures, and being fearless when they need to attack sharks.

Again, Harvey Mackay has impressed me with his soft sell approach, this time with promoting his newest bestselling book, Use Your Head to Get Your Foot in the Door: Job Search Secrets No One Else Will Tell You. On his thank you page for opting into his mailing list, Mackay speaks to you on another video. “If you decide you don’t want to invest in yourself and the book, that’s okay.” This is an outstanding example of soft sell sales and marketing. [...]

Selling for the Love of It

There’s more to life than money alone. I know that sounds shocking from someone who trains people to sell and who considers himself a businessman. Nevertheless, for most of us, it’s true. And from my experience working with small business owners, I find that most of them have a passion for what they do. Naturally, we all want to make lots of money and be able to have the freedom and possessions it brings.

In both my experience and reading, I find that most of us work to make a living to do the things that are important to us. The rare ones among us do the work out of love for the job itself. In my case, I sell for the love of it. I do sales training because it gives me even greater pleasure. So, sell for the love of it! Personally, I want the fullness of job satisfaction too. I love selling for the fun, fulfillment and mutual rewards I get from heart-centered, soft sell sales and [...]

In Soft Sell Sales, Questions Are to Understand

About twenty years ago, I attended a sales training class that has ever since stood out as the classic example of hard sell. This former vacuum cleaner salesman taught us how he sold 90% of the homes in this small town in Nevada or Arizona. He told us to just develop a series of questions that everybody would answer yes to. Each yes was like a degree on a thermometer. Eventually you had so many yeses that the temperature reached a point where — that’s right — where they couldn’t say no. Degree by degree he built his closing momentum.

I left that training really disappointed that I’d wasted my money. Talk about manipulation. Long before I heard Judith & Jim talk about soft sell marketing and their Soft Sell Marketers Association, I was a soft sell salesperson and soft sell marketer. The irony is that when you use the soft sell approach and ask questions to better understand your prospects’ situation, you don’t need to memorize checklists of questions or drill yourself on clever, irresistible closes. You gain freedom to be yourself, to actually have fun relating with your prospects as people. Soft sell sales and marketing build relationships and make connections. [...]

Sales Success – What Does the Golden Rule Have to Do with It?

1/09/09 – I figure this blog post might irritate some salespeople because for them, selling is a competitive game, a win-lose game. In their business world, the Golden Rule is “He who has the gold rules.” They love the challenge of controlling the prospect and winning regardless of the actions it takes to get the order. While I have had small business clients who were every bit as controlling and manipulating as the best old school trained salesperson, most small business owners I’ve dealt with aren’t like that.

In the majority of these companies, the founders built their companies on the main Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” They give their word that they will do something, and they deliver. They love what they do. They genuinely want to help their customers.

This soft sell approach is the reason these companies are as successful as they are. Their attitude of service and providing what the customer wants wins them [...]