How to Avoid Looking Stupid When Asking Questions

I’ve often wondered why salespeople have such a hard time asking questions that dig deeply enough to understand what their customers want. I’ve seen consultants do the same thing. The danger is that we make assumptions and then propose the wrong solution. Because the customer either recognizes immediately that it won’t work or maybe tries it before discovering it doesn’t work, we’ve lost credibility and trust.

Among the many reasons I’ve discovered for not asking enough questions, is that people are afraid of looking stupid when asking questions. When you operate from a heart-centered, soft sell sales and marketing viewpoint, it should make sense that you want to come across sincere and trustworthy. You do this largely by taking time to ask the questions for understanding. [...]

How to Fit in with Your Prospects

Reading my friend Bob Poole’s book, Listen First – Sell Later, he reminded me about the value of getting to know your customers’ industries. This is important to all salespeople and marketers, not just to soft sell sales and marketing people. To really help yourself get established in your sales and marketing efforts, study up on your ideal customers’ market or industry. Once you choose where you want to initially focus, start reading up as much as you can about it. There are several approaches to successful research. Likewise, there are at least three purposes to your doing this research and getting involved in a low key way. [...]

Researching Facts Is So Much Easier - Thanks, Wikipedia

If you really care about building relationships with your customers and prospects, then you will frequently find yourself doing research to confirm your facts. Because trust is a fragile thing, I often look information up to double check things. I want my clients and potential clients to be able to count on me. Trust is core to heart-centered, soft sell sales and marketing.

Recently, my favorite reference site put out a request for support. Jimmy Wales, Wikipedia’s founder, is asking for our help. You probably already use Wikipedia. If not, I can’t encourage you strongly enough to support this nonprofit organization that seeks to become the largest encyclopedia in human history. Wikipedia is already the “fifth most-read site in the world.” “More than 340 million people use Wikipedia every month – almost a third of the Internet-connected [...]

Succeed at Sales and Enjoy It More by Selling Like a Consultant

Last night, I got thinking about the similarities between how I sold business customers when I was a sales rep and a sales manager and how I do my consulting. I had just completed my report to my latest client, a subcontract job on sales and marketing for CMTC, a non-profit that specializes in helping small manufacturers in Southern California.

When I sold business-to-business, I was always one of the sales leaders — and I was able to do become a leader in most jobs without pressuring, controlling or manipulating the customer. My normal approach based my actions on an attitude of service. I helped customers buy. Besides a service attitude, it takes curiosity and a constant desire to learn to become a sales [...]