The Attraction Power of Passion in Sales

My client looked at me really strangely when I spoke to him about passion for his products. He was a businessman who manufactured hair and personal care products. This was a business in his mind, not a love affair. But we were talking about passion from different viewpoints. I reminded him of the enthusiasm they had for the unsolicited customer testimonials they receive. He and his adult sons agreed then. Frankly, few things are as attractive in a salesperson as passion and excitement, provided the prospect is ready to listen to his passion.

And therein lays the critical point. If you push your enthusiasm on a prospect before that person is ready to listen, you come across as a hard sell salesperson. Your potential buyer may visit a few minutes longer before leaving, probably for good. On the other hand, if you demonstrate that you care about the customer’s concerns first, ask questions and probe to understand better, without rushing into the product, you are demonstrating a soft sell sales approach. People want you to care about what they really need and want before you try to sell them. If you do this, you will be able to help customers [...]

The Strangest Secret to Business Success

It’s ironic that the secret to great success in business lies in service first, rather than focusing on the money. Interestingly, this is a heart-centered, soft sell sales approach. In the past two weeks, I’ve heard several incredibly successful people point out that if you want to really grow your business, you need to serve first, i.e. give something of value with no expectation of return, before you begin to think of selling. Harvey Mackay, six time best selling business book author; Stephen Pierce of Stephen Pierce International; and Bill Walsh of Powerteam International also gave advice related to putting the other person first.

So the strangest secret to business success comes down to a heart-centered, soft sell sales approach. Give service first. Provide value. Find out about the other person and her concerns. When you have shown sincere concern and developed trust, then you will find your prospect receptive to talking business. When you connect with others as people instead of wallets, you build relationships that make selling fun, fulfilling and mutually [...]

The idea that soft sell sales is all about personality is wrong

I had forgotten that people may interpret soft sell sales as an effort to succeed simply on the power of one’s great personality. Jim Sniechowski in his recent blog post, Soft Sell Marketing Misconceptions – A Dime a Dozen, mentioned misconceptions about soft sell. Among these is the flaw in thinking that soft sell sales is about personality. This false image produces the erroneous idea that soft sell salespeople are limited to sales to prospects who already know they wanted to buy that product or service.

I can appreciate how someone might think that soft sell means personality. Unfortunately, regardless of your approach, whether traditional, hard sell or the rising in popularity heart-centered, soft sell one, sales success takes proactive work. True heart-centered, soft sell sales success has little or nothing to do with having a likable personality. [...]

Silence Is Invaluable When Asking Questions

In the early years of attending sales training seminars, one of the dramatic effects sales trainers, especially with a large audience would try for would be to tell us, “When you ask a question,” then they would pause for a moment and follow that by yelling, “SHUT UP!” They would continue with this cliché, “He who speaks first loses.”

If you’ve read any of my blog posts about heart-centered, soft sell sales, by now you should recognize that as a hard sell attitude. It’s all about control and a win-lose philosophy of sales. Nevertheless, today, I’m going to tell you something similar but from a different perspective. When you ask a question, be quiet until your prospect or customer answers. It shows respect. And respect can make the difference in your [...]

Using "Yes But" for Objections Can Harm Your Relationships

This habit of speech is one of the hardest I can think of to break. It’s natural when we feel attacked to defend ourselves. The problem is that we can harm a relationship we’ve worked hard to build. There’s something about saying “yes, but …” that undermines trust and liking someone.

Years ago I learned to never give a compliment then follow it with “but ….” In the mind of the person receiving the compliment, the “but” cancels out everything positive you said before it. In sales and marketing, whether heart-centered, soft sell sales or hard sell, you can do the same thing, particularly when handling objections.

It’s common to take them personally, to become defensive. As a result, we try a little empathy. We get in trouble when we follow our statement of understanding with a ”but …” to show our prospects or customers that while they made a good point, they are still wrong.
This is when you can win the battle but lose the war. So what’s the answer? Train yourself not to react. Avoid the battle. Develop your natural curiosity about what is really being said. Use heart-centered, soft sell sales by focusing on them. Start a dialogue. Ask [...]

Doing What’s Right in Sales Situations

This weekend a friend described an ethical situation at work. In Mike’s (not his real name) case, his employer is actually breaking the law. It requires courage to act in such an environment. Unfortunately, most ethical situations, in my experience, manage to skirt the law thereby making the judgment call even harder. This is particularly true in sales and marketing where people who are driven solely by the numbers, i.e. money, care only about getting the contract signed. The methods used to get the signature are unimportant to these types of business people.

Actually, salespeople who want to use heart-centered, soft sell sales techniques will be coming from a place of integrity and from an attitude that their relationships with their customers or clients are more important than the immediate sales. So, how do you know what the right thing to do is in any given sales situation? While philosophers have all sorts of answers to that question; my preference is to go back to the Golden Rule: do onto others as you would have them do unto you. Or you could take Richard Bach’s advice in Illusions: do unto others as they would have you do unto them. The point is, go with your gut or, better yet, go with your [...]

Skip Manipulating by Customer Service Report Card

Charles Green got me thinking the other day about the right way and the wrong way to ask for testimonials. He was actually talking about how to do customer service surveys but his point applies to asking for testimonials as well. In Trust-Based Selling, Green wrote, “It’s manipulative to ask customers point blank if you have given them excellent service; it is embarrassing, self-serving, and highly self-oriented.” (p. 201)

The reason I’m writing about this is because it relates also to requesting referrals and testimonials. So how does a heart-based, soft sell salesperson get testimonials? I think it’s a bit of a tightrope walk to do it right without losing the trust you worked so hard to develop. The key to heart-based, soft sell sales lies in which has priority, my prospects’ challenges and desires or my profit. Assuming I have earned their trust and delivered what they need, I have found customers very willing to give me a [...]

The Hidden Lie about Seven Impressions in Advertising

For some 30 years of my career in sales and marketing, we’ve used a rule of thumb that it takes seven impressions for the average person to buy — assuming he or she actually has a need for what you are selling. And as rules of thumb go, it’s a good one — if you understand what it means. Otherwise, it’s a lie to the extent that it can be very misleading. It’s a lie of omission.

So the hidden lie about seven impressions in advertising is a lie of omission. Being a rule of thumb, the novice would expect that seven ads or seven emails should start to produce sales. In reality, it’s more involved. [...]

The Park Is Open Until 8 PM

While I was reading Randy Pausch’s The Last Lecture that my son and his family gave me for my birthday, I came to the 12th chapter, “The Park Is Open Until 8 p.m.” I didn’t pay close attention to the title until I got into the chapter where Randy said (on p. 62), “Ask Disney World workers: ‘What time does the park close?’ They’re supposed to answer: ‘ The park is open until 8 p.m.”

Wow! Such a little change yet it has such a different feeling. The emphasis is on the positive viewpoint, “open.” This immediately reminded me of numerous terms used in sales and marketing that put a negative approach. Soft sell salespeople and soft sell marketers look to treat prospects and customers with respect. We can change many of our standard terms in sales and marketing so as to give our subconscious the right [...]

Time Enough But No More — If

No matter how noble your efforts and how much you want to help people, each of us only has 24 hours in a day. For most business purposes, the time to work with prospects and customers tends to be significantly less. After too many hours, I lose enthusiasm and energy so eight to ten hours is my practical limit normally. I find too that as much as I love my work, I need downtime to refresh and recharge. Still there is time enough but no more, if I manage my time well, to reach the prospects and customers I need to.

The point here is that none of us has an unlimited supply of time. So how do we grow our businesses then? We do it by identifying our Ideal Customer Profile, narrow down the suspects to only those who are likely to benefit from your products and services. This approach is soft sell sales and [...]